This is how you will be successful in finding the right person

Who is this right person anyway? Is it your current boyfriend, or is it the beautiful girl in the neighborhood on whom you have been crushing on, or is it the one whom you swiped left on tinder a few moments back? (Psst..Check out how a man falls in love)

“There are guys who grow up thinking they’ll settle down some distant time in the future, and there are guys who are ready for marriage as soon as they meet the right person. The former bore me, mainly because they’re pathetic; and the latter, quite frankly, are hard to find. But it’s the serious ones I’m interested in, and it takes time to find a guy like that whom I’m equally interested in. I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song

Who on earth is this right person?

What is the actual story that revolves behind this addictive riddle and the urge to find the right person? More than getting to know the definition, how do we get closer to finding them? There isn’t any particular recipe as to how do you know who the right person is, but based upon a research done by the psychologists most people go by the following thumb rule

The rare combination of finding the person you like and wanting to commit to them (this should be mutual), is something which has been defined as finding the right person.  

Finding the right person

In addition to this find an answer to the following questions, (Do read as about how to love a damaged soul)

  • Are you both attracted to one another physically as well as mentally?
  • Do like them for the person they currently are and not how you imagine them to be?
  • How often do you two communicate (learn to differentiate between talking and communicating)
  • Do they make time for you during the day, when most of the people are genuinely busy with work? (it’s more than missing someone when you are lying in your bed late in the night)
  • Do you imagine a future with them?

Your introspection upon the above stated questions would help you get a bit of lucidity about your own thoughts.

But how do we get closer to finding the right person?

Change as much as it is inevitable, is something we don’t wish to encounter. However most of the times even when we know that a person isn’t right, we continue to stick to them. Is this truly patience or is it our fear of getting lonely that stops us from letting them go? The truth is that the faster we cut the wrong people out the closer we’d move towards the right one.

Finding the right person

But the question is that how many of us actually do that? How many of us let go off that toxic person who doesn’t treat us the way we deserve to be treated. As much as simple this catch may sound, but here is the underlying irony, we don’t let go. The sooner we understand the difference between letting go and giving up, the better we’d be at peace with ourselves. Give your full shot, if it doesn’t work out, be strong and let it go. Allow yourself to be with people who truly deserve your time. (Do read about why you should let go even when you haven’t moved on)

Below is a beautiful video which tries to explain this concept from a different perspective. Do watch it and keep loving my dear readers!



Categories: Love

Tanisha Sharma

CoFounder and Editor-in-Chief at ExploreOutLoud. She is a happy go lucky feminist, who believes in living freely and loving courageously. She has a deep penchant for reading, writing, travelling and is a true foodie to the core.

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