A letter to all my sisters.
Life, as we all know is a journey and seeking love is one of the reasons which motivates us to tread upon this adventure. We humans want to be loved, embraced and want that one person who makes us feel home. That one person for whose smile we look forward to waking up every morning. We all want a perfect companion. However in reality love is not about finding a perfect person, but finding that one loving imperfect soul who helps you to look beyond the imperfections of life.
Life is a continuous juggling between seeking and settling. But I wonder why amid a constant desire to find a “perfect” person, we end up settling for someone who is not meant for us. Are we dwelling in that constant fear of being left alone? Yes world is a scary place and it’s scarier when we have to face it alone. But this does not mean that we simply tie ourselves to a wrong being. Often we confuse infatuation with love. We don’t want to admit that it isn’t just love; we are simply fascinated by that very idea of being in love. Settling would never give us that real satisfaction, that real happiness and that real desire to improve as a human being. Love is growing together; it’s a constant motivation to be a better person every day.
The irony is that deep down we all know the above realities. Yet, we find ourselves caught up in a wrong, sometimes even a toxic relationship. Yes, we have grown up reading fairy tales. And whether we admit it or not but we all want “happily ever after” to be the conclusion of our lives. However, honestly I find forever to be a very overrated word. It’s time that we grow out from the myth of finding that knight in a shining armor. We are not some damsels in distress crying to be rescued from this world. Don’t dream for someone who treats you like a princess. Instead look for a man who treats you like a lady. Who is ingenuous and treats you as an equal. Who gives you the respect and endless love every woman deserves. Let us be the strongest version of ourselves. Yes you may have to wait longer and it may not be easy either, but trust me it is going to be worth it.
So when do we know that we have found the right man? It is when you no longer worry about “forever” because now you have started living in the moment.